Biblical Manhood #10 Manage Anger Well

Anger can play a significant role in all of our lives. With men in particular, though, anger tends to be a major battlefield. And for men who have families and even loved one, anger is too often directed toward the very people that men are called to protect. "A man (or a leader)," said Paul to Timothy, "must not be violent" (1 Timothy 3:3) ✔📖⚡ #ServeToLead #BiblicalManhood #ManageAngerWell

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Angelus' Quote: The 10 Commandments for Guiding Your Children

I have no credential to teach parents 🚫 Its easier to say (and post) until one has their own children. So, with the help of J. David Branon, regular contributor to Our Daily Bread (ODB) Ministry, 😉 here are 10 Commands for guiding your children:

1) Teach them, using God's Word (Deuteronomy 6:4-9)

2) Tell them what's right and wrong (1 Kings 1:6)

3) See them as gifts from God (Psalms 127:3)

4) Guide them in godly ways (Proverbs 22:6)

5) Discipline them (Proverbs 29:17)

6) Love them unconditionally (Luke 15:11-32)

7) Do not provoke them to wrath (Ephesians 6:4)

8) Earn their respect by example (1 Timothy 3:4)

9) Provide for their physical needs (1 Timothy 5:8)

10) Pass your faith along to them (2 Timothy 1:5)

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3 Questions to Know If the Man You're With (or Will Be With) Is Bullshit or Authentic

I can't create three questions to know if the woman you're with is authentic or not, but I can - based on experience, observation and as a man myself - tells you how to know if the man you're with is BS or not. Ask these questions:

#1 What makes him angry? Not if he angry or not. If he never gets angry, he's one short of a warrior. Anger shows where his heart is. Anger reveals his innermost desires and attention. When he's angry, does his anger due to what people do to him or to others? Anger at unrighteousness, injustice, and bullies is righteous anger. If his anger is selfish and self-centered, leave him!

#2 What are his 'secret' disciplines? To know this, you need to get into deep with him. Observes how he spend his time, energy and dealing with people. It's not what he said to you, it's what he didn't say to you but leave clues when you observe it intensely. Is he wiser than yesterday, is he more empathetic, is he confess his shortcomings as fast as showing you his strengths? All of these are the product of 'secret' disciplines. If you're a Christian, it means his prayer life, meditating the Word of God and attitude of generosity.

#3 How he uses his money? It's not about how much he earns or paycheck. The most visible way to know what's in a man's (and your) heart is to know where his money goes.

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Timothy, Tell the Men to Lead in Worship and Prayer (1 Timothy 2:8, Men Only)

“I want men everywhere to lift up holy hands in prayer,
without anger or disputing”

(1 Timothy 2:8, NIV)

Keep in mind that the apostle Paul here is continuing his instructions concerning prayer which were begun in verse 1. Here, in this verse, Paul instructed who is to do the praying and how they are to pray. He wrote, “I want…” Previously, he said that God “wants all men to be saved” (v.4), but now Paul “wants men” to pray. He is expressing what he would like to see take place in the church.

And this is interesting, “men” here is not referred to as mankind in general, but men in specific contrast to women. Paul, based on my reading of his epistles, is pointing out that the leadership and responsibility for prayer in the public worship service are upon the men, not women. This doesn’t mean that a woman cannot pray in public worship service, far from it (read 1 Corinthians 11 where Paul gives instructions for women to do so), but the headship and leadership of men are to be recognized. Again, keep in mind that Paul is giving instructions for the public worship service (church service, if you would like to call it), not a service specifically called for prayer. Women should not hesitate to participate freely in such a service as long as the headship of men is recognized. This is God’s will.

“I want men everywhere to lift up holy hands in prayer…” Although lifting or raising hands while worship is harmless even good, I don’t think Paul is talking about bodily posture here. Our heart posture in which we offer prayers matters more than our body posture: “If I had not confessed the sin in my heart, my Lord would not have listened” (Psalms 66:19, NLT). “Holy” refers to a quality of life, not a part of the body. The heart must be clean and the life holy if prayer is to be heard. Sins have cut us off from God (refer to Isaiah 59:1-2), therefore, holiness is necessary for effectual prayer. Remember, we can be holy because through and in Christ we have been made holy (read Hebrews 10:10). We are and we can be. There also must not be “anger or disputing” or as Eugene Peterson paraphrased, “not shaking angry fists at enemies but raising holy hands to God.” Anger against one another and/or resentment against God also can cut us off from Him and makes prayer unacceptable.

So, when we pray to God – when men pray – men should take the headship, leadership and godly examples in the public worship service. We must examine our hearts daily and confess our sins so that it will not cut off our relationship with God. And ask the Lord to fill us with His holiness, peace and mercy as we lead others in prayer. Where are men of God today? Be one.

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Things I Wish My Father Knew #7 How to Handle Anger and Disappointments

Among the treasures of fatherhood

are shared moments of accomplishment

with your child –

times when your child

follows the right path

and make you proud – SUCCESS!

There are other moments also – FAILURE!

Times when your child

want to go his own way…

moments filled with

rebellion,

wrong choices,

disappointment.

How can you handle these times of

strained relationship,

disillusionment,

anger?

At times such as these,

your Heavenly Father’s example

can give you patience and courage

to sustain you while you await

the return of your wayward child.

And, He can help you maintain LOVE

sufficient to greet your

returning prodigal

with open arms –

just as the Father,

wait for YOU!

“As a father has compassion

on his children,

so the LORD has compassion

on those who fear him”
(Psalms 103:13)

“Train a child

in the way he should go,

and when he is old

he will not turn from it”

(Proverbs 22:6)

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Ezekiel saw Visions of God during the Exiles (Ezekiel 1:1-4)

“In my thirtieth year, in the fourth month of the fifth day, while I was among the exiles by the Kebar River, the heavens were opened and I saw visions of God. On the fifth of the month – it was the fifth year of the exile of King Jehoiachin – the word of the LORD came to Ezekiel the priest, the son of Buzi, by the Kebar River in the land of the Babylonians. There the hand of the LORD was on him. I looked, and I saw a windstorm coming out of the north – an immense cloud with flashing lightning and surrounded by brilliant light”
(Ezekiel 1:1-4, NIV).

The prophet Ezekiel was among the first of the exiles, carried off to Babylon more than ten years before the final siege and fall of Jerusalem. He had been taken away with the King Jehoiachin, the royal family, and the leading men of the land. They were alive and maintained some status. But they were captives in a foreign land (*thank you Bible handbook).

I imagined, what a joy and relief it must have been to Ezekiel to see visions from God. As a priest, he would have been spiritually sensitive to the reasons the Jews had been exiled. He would have understood that their punishment was a direct result of God’s anger (after many warnings) with them. As far as Ezekiel knew, God might never talk to them again. But then came God’s visions to him. God appeared in awesome power, with a windstorm, a flashing lightning and brilliant light.

We all go through spiritual valleys and dark places, sometimes because of our sins, sometimes for reasons we do not understand. Sometimes because we walk away from God. But He is there, even when we don’t see Him. And every now and then – by God’s grace – He gives us a little glimpse of Himself. At that time, listen to Him.

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God’s Anger is Always Answered by His Grace and Mercy (Genesis 9:12-16)

“[God] said. ‘This is the sign of the covenant I am making between me and you and every living creature with you, a covenant for all generations to come: I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth. Whenever I bring clouds over the earth and the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will remember my covenant between me and you and all living creatures of every kind. Never again will the waters become a flood to destroy all life. Whenever the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures of every kind on the earth’”

(Genesis 9:12-16, NIV).

In the Old Testament (no less than the New Testament), God’s anger is always answered by His grace. The global destruction of the Flood was followed immediately by the promise of hope and mercy. “Never again,” God promised, would He send the kind of flood that Noah and his family had just lived through. And the sign of that promise was a bow in the sky – a rainbow.

FES staffs like to see rainbow. Rainbow is like a giant bow in the sky. It is worth noticing that the bow is aimed to shoot its arrows up toward heaven, not down toward earth. The bow is not against humankind that say: “Behave yourselves or the arrow of God’s wrath are going to shoot at you again.” No, this bow is positioned to shoot at the heart of God. It is as if God is saying: “I promise, cross My heart.” In this covenant, God puts Himself on the hook.

Most of the covenants in the Bible are two-sided, in which God’s people agree to hold up their end of the bargain. But this covenant – between God and the earth – is all about God. God’s anger is always answered by His grace and mercy.

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God's Grace in Human's Dark Hearts (Genesis 4:3-8)

“In the course of time Cain brought some of the fruits of the soil as an offering to the LORD. And Abel also brought an offering – fat portions from some of the firstborn of his flock. The LORD looked at favour on Abel and his offering, but on Cain and his offering he did not look with favour. So Cain was very angry, and his face was downcast. Then the LORD said to Cain, ‘Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.’ Now Cain said to his brother Abel, ‘Let’s go out to the field.’ While they were in the field, Cain attached his brother Abel and killed him”

(Genesis 4:3-8, NIV).

The brokenness and the consequences of post-Fall sinful-world reached a new level in the relationship between Cain and Abel, the first brothers. They both brought their offerings to God. Abel, a shepherd, brought the best of animal; Cain brought fruits and vegetables.

God accepted Abel’s sacrifice and rejected Cain’s. Cain was furious – whether angry at God or at Abel or both, the Bible doesn’t say specifically. Nor does the Bible spell out directly why God rejected Cain’s sacrifice, but it seems likely that it was the state of Cain’s heart – and not the technicalities of produce offerings verses animal sacrifice – that stood between Cain and God. “If you do what is right,” God admonished Cain, “will you not be accepted?” God followed the question with a stern warning: “But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.”

Even as He look into Cain’s dark heart, God gave the first murderer a choice. But Cain chose to be a slave rather than master of his sin. His external anger was a manifestation of a deeper sin inside. Each of us has the same choice: what do we do with it is up to us. Remember, now we have Christ and His Spirit. We can overcome sins by His power and grace. In Christ, “You must [can] rule over it.” God is sovereign and we have choices.

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