Dear Annabel,
As people grow, they change. It’s a
natural part of life. The same thing happens to some marriages. Your mom and
dad change as they grow and perhaps the change doesn’t suit one or both of your
parents in the marriage. You know, the same things happened in many friendships
– I have already experienced it and you will soon.
It
happened to me. I have a friend in secondary school. We were best friends until
we both went to further our studies in different universities. Once awhile we
met up and catch up with one another stories. As time goes by, we both started
liking different things and hanging out with different people. After 3 years we
had both changed so much that we had nothing in common anymore and our
friendship ended. Should we have stayed friends because we used to like each
other? I don’t think so.
You
know Annabel, after couple being married for a while, some moms and dads even
grow closer while others grow further apart. They stop caring. They don’t
listen to one another anymore. They yell and fight. They are frustrated and
unhappy. Should they stay together just because they used to be in love?
Probably not. Commitment, faithfulness, and trust should be established early
in the marriage, if not they will easily break. This is the fall of both
parents.
Some
parents who grow apart stay married because they don’t want to upset their
children. You know what? Researchers found that children living with unhappily
married parents are often more stressed and less happy than children whose parents
are successfully divorced. Maybe amidst this difficulties, dear Annabel, this
thing happened to you for your own good. Your mom and dad probably not happy
with each other and if they were to continue you won’t be happy either.
Uncle
admits that this divorce thing is not easy. Parents feel sad. Kids feel awful.
Grandparents and siblings don’t know what to do. Friends from both parents
don’t know whose side to take. It’s hard. That is why uncle is very proud of
you for taking this matter responsively. Believe
me, this thing will not stay messy forever and I promise you, my dear, that
this divorce actually turns out to be the best thing for the families – for you. Stay strong, my child!
Love,
Angelus
THINK BIG.
START SMALL. GO DEEP.