This is a chapter-by-chapter
summary of a book by Jordan B. Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to
Chaos (2018). One chapter, one article. Read this summary, buy the book.
Enjoy!
“The great majority of us could not listen; we would find ourselves compelled to evaluate because listening would seem too dangerous. So the first requirement is courage, and we do not always have it.”
(Carl Rogers)
When people argue about
something, they often fall in the trap of trying to win over that argument and
miss the true point of a good conversation. That is to come-out-wiser-than-you
mentality when into it. First of all, winning over an argument does not
necessarily mean that your thinking was smarter. If you happen to be more
verbally fluent than the others, chances are against him even though he might
be wiser than you, because as long as he cannot express his opinions with ease
he can’t win because you don’t give him fair chances to win. And as mentioned
before: “It’s not about winning.”
The best thing to do is
to take good advantage of what someone is trying to tell you. Give him or her a chance to fully explain and make
you understand what he or she is exactly thinking. Who knows maybe, in the end,
you could find his or her ideas or suggestions better than some of yours and
prevent you from facing future problems. “If you listen, instead, without
premature judgment, people will generally tell you everything they are
thinking—and with very little deceit. People will tell you the most amazing,
absurd, interesting things.” Peterson even says to “listen to your
enemies.” Surely, they will lie about you, but also be sure that they will
be frank about things that your friends might not see or don’t dare to tell
you. Learn to separate the wheat from the chaff.
THINK BIG. START
SMALL. GO DEEP.
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