This is a chapter-by-chapter
summary of a book by Jordan B. Peterson’s 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to
Chaos (2018). One chapter, one article. Read this summary, buy the book.
Enjoy!
“Modern parents are simply paralyzed by the fear that
they will no longer be liked or even loved by their children if they chastise
them for any reason. They want their children’s friendship above all and are
willing to sacrifice respect to get it. This is not good. A child will have
many friends, but only two parents – if that – and parents are more, not less,
than friends.”
“If a child has not been taught to behave properly by
the age of four, it will forever be difficult for him or her to make friends”
(Jordan B. Peterson)
This is Peterson’s advice
for parents, not mine. He said that parents are human beings too, meaning that
they are not perfect and they can easily make mistakes which can affect their kids.
Parents are not always as nice as they think. People often will take revenge on
someone who messes them up, even on their own children, because it happens
unconsciously. You might think, “Oh this is impossible, I’d never do
anything to hurt my kid,” but all people have a “subconscious proclivity for
tyranny” deeply rooted within them and that tyranny is more likely to be
shown against someone who is much less powerful than you, for example, your
children. So, hunger, stress, fatigue or even a bad day at work are more than
enough to make you lose your temper and become unreasonable over your children.
Peterson states some
principles on the disciplinary procedure. #1 Parents should limit the rules,
and #2 Use the least possible force to enforce them. They also #3
Need to understand how much they should be harsh, vengeful, arrogant, resentful
or angry each time in front of their kids. Parents are somewhat of “proxies
for the real world” who will teach and prepare their children to be
socially desirable for the world outside [You can learn more about this Rule
#5 in this YouTube video, CLICK HERE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=krfhpUrE6ys&feature=youtu.be]
THINK BIG. START
SMALL. GO DEEP.
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